Little L is now a “Busy Bee” in nursery. It took us a while to get to the decision to send him to nursery and equally to get him settled. But we have done it and so far it’s just been the normal tears and upset for five minutes. Of course the moment mummy has gone he’s happy to play with all the toys. Funny how they know just how to pull at those heart strings.
I have begun to realise that the nursery drop off has been really hard on me. I always knew it would be difficult but as The L’s Papa pointed out to me, I never realised how hard it would actually be to hand my precious boy over to someone else. Espeically as a stay at home mum who chose not to go back to work so she could take care of her baby.
But we have our reasons for sending him, and in the long run it was the right thing to do. I thought I would share with you some of the things I tell myself in my head as I hand Little L over to his key worker. Mostly he will be in tears at this point, really making the situation harder than it needs to be.
“He loves it” – It’s true Little L really does love nursery. He will say “Nursery” In an excited voice and as soon as we pull on to the car park he will say “Yes” in an excited fist pump kind of way. Yes he cries when it’s time for mummy to leave but he really does love it.
“In five minutes he will stop crying” – This is always the case, I will always ring and check and every time he is always fine. They always tell me that within five minutes he’s found his favourite toys and running round with his friends.
“You are not the worst mum in the world” – I always feel like I am when I drop him off. I think it’s because he’s crying shouting “No, Mummy” but I am not the worst mum in the world. He loves it there, and also I am a better mum for just having a bit of me time. Even if it is spent cleaning and organising the house.
“He will be so happy when you pick him up” – Little L always runs up to me and gives me the biggest hug when I collect him from nursery. Normally these type of situations are only saved for his Papa when he gets home from work so it’s really nice to be on the receiving end of this from time to time.
“Everyone is lovely and they take great care of him” – We are really lucky to have picked a lovely nursery where all the staff are wonderfully friendly. They all talk to him and offer cuddles whenever is needed. I have caught him a few times cuddling his key worker and that’s a big thing for him.
“You are a great mum” – Sometimes reinforcing things with a positive message is a great thing to do. I love my boy and everything I do is for him, so I think that makes me a good mum.
“He’s going to paint and glue, and play with playdoh, everything you hate” – I am not the most craftiest of mums going and so nursery has allowed Little L to do all of the things he would like to do more often. I love showcasing his masterpieces.
What do you tell yourself when you are dropping the children off at nursery or school? I would love to know.
Thanks for reading
The L’s Mum