We have been engaged for over 2 years, but have only recently decided to properly jump into the world of wedding planning and actually set a date of getting married. It wasn’t high on our priority list if I am honest. The expense, although I know it can be done as cheaply or expensive as you want it to be, was something we didn’t have. Each time the money set aside for a wedding get’s allocated to something else. A holiday, a house deposit, saving for our kids future and also for extending our family. However when we suffered with our ectopic pregnancy at the end of last year we decided that we should do it for us and our family.
So we made the decision that 2016 would be the year we would tie the knot and honestly it has been the most welcomed distraction.
But I didn’t realise how hard it was going to be. It’s exciting of course but there is so much to think about.
What I would say has been the hardest part of wedding planning in the last 2-3 months of starting out has been…
Or venues in our case. You may wonder why, and if I was reading this at the beginning of my wedding planning journey, then I would say the same thing. Surely you know the type of venue you want, right? Wrong!
I thought I knew. I thought I knew what I wanted and then you start thinking, and thinking some more until it becomes so overcomplicated with a big list of what the venue has to be and do and it becomes a little impossible to choose the perfect place.
Of course the perfect place is out there for you. And you will find it. So I thought I would share with you some things to consider so you really don’t have to go round every possible venue choice like I did.
Discuss with your partner and family – Hear everyone out. A lot of valid points were raised by my mum when we discussed our venue options and choices. My partner wanted something completely different and so we worked through it all. We ended up having a list that not many venues would be able to tick everything off and actually in the end have gone for a completely different wedding that we set out to book at the beginning. It took a lot of discussion between myself and my partner, hearing opinions of others, and a little soul searching to realise what we both wanted. Get these conversations out of the way before you set out and look at venues. That way you will know what you want.
Budget – Know your budget and also how you are funding your wedding. Can you realistically save for that awesome castle venue in the 12 months you have set yourself? Can you afford the wedding you want in your head? Are family contributing and if so how much? Money isn’t the nicest topic of conversation so get it out of the way with your partner and family at the beginning so everyone is on the same page.
Be open minded – What may not look that great on a website might not be the perfect location for you. What might be in your mind out of the area actually might not be a total wrong choice. Once you know what you want visit the places and discuss your requirements with the contact or wedding planner. Not everything can be decided from a computer screen and you still need to have that good old fashioned feeling of a place to know what is right and wrong.
Finally consider the following things:
Do you need accommodation? If the venue doesn’t provide it is there any accommodation near by and is there enough for your numbers.
Think of your pictures. These are the things you will look back on years to come so make sure that the venue matches your personality or provides a great backdrop for pictures.
Ask about a reduction in price. If your numbers don’t meet the package requirements ask for a deal to be done. If your numbers exceed minimum numbers then equally see what they can do. If you don;t ask you don’t get.
Think of the season you are marrying in. If you think you have found the perfect venue but are viewing it in summer and you are getting married in the winter try to envision if the venue will work just as well during the winter months. Ask to see pictures of weddings held at the venue in the season you are marrying in.
Trust your gut. We found a venue that literally ticked all the boxes on our impossible list before finalising on a place. On paper it was perfect but I had a feeling it wasn’t right for us. We now have a different venue planned and I feel much happier and the venue we picked was something we hadn’t even thought of or considered and doesn’t tick all the boxes but it was the one that felt right. Your gut can tell you a lot.
I hope all of this helps and can’t wait to share with you more of the planning for our wedding this winter. Would you add anything to the list? What did you or would you consider when picking out your wedding venue?
Thanks for reading